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Table Etiquette: The Top 10 Things You Should Never Forget (Unless You Want to Eat Alone)

by Jene | Apr 29, 2024 | For the Boys | 0 comments

Ah, first dates—the magical time when you’re trying to impress someone while pretending you’re not secretly sweating bullets. A lot can go wrong at the dinner table: awkward silences, food in your teeth, or a surprise splatter of sauce. But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. Here’s a list of the top 10 things to remember so you can focus on getting to know your date and less on how not to embarrass yourself.

1. Remember the Napkin

Napkins are your best friend on a date. Keep it on your lap, and if you need to dab your lips or hands, do so discreetly. Waving it around like a victory flag isn’t a good look. And please, no nose-blowing. If you need to, excuse yourself and head to the restroom.

2. Don’t Treat the Menu Like a Law Book

Reading every line of the menu as if it contains the secret to immortality is a bit much. If you don’t know what to order, ask for recommendations or choose something simple. Your date doesn’t want to sit through a 20-minute dissection of the wine list.

3. No Loud Chewing

No one wants to feel like they’re on a date with a barnyard animal. Keep your chewing quiet and your mouth closed. If your meal requires extra work (I’m looking at you, ribs), maybe pick a different dish. Or bring a bib, but that’s not going to score you any second dates.

4. Don’t Hog the Conversation

Sure, you’re amazing, but this is a date, not a monologue. Ask your date questions, listen to their stories, and maybe don’t bring up your childhood collection of taxidermied squirrels. And if they do bring up something awkward, like their collection of vintage socks, just nod and smile. It’s called social grace.

5. Elbows Off the Table

While you might be tempted to lean in close and get cozy, remember that the table isn’t a lounge chair. Keep your elbows off the table, unless you’re doing the dramatic “lean in” during a particularly juicy story. Otherwise, it’s just a space invasion.

6. Don’t Talk with Your Mouth Full

I know you’re excited to tell that hilarious story about your awkward high school prom, but if you’ve got a mouth full of linguine, hold off. No one wants a front-row seat to your dinner. Finish chewing, then share. Your date (and their dry-cleaner) will thank you.

7. No Phones at the Table

If you need your phone for something important, that’s fine. But constant texting, checking social media, or worse, taking selfies during dinner, is a huge red flag. Focus on your date. If it’s that boring, you should probably just cut your losses and go home.

8. Respect Personal Space

Dates are a great time to get to know each other, but let’s not rush the whole “personal space” thing. If you’re reaching across the table to grab their fork, it’s too much. Keep to your side of the table and save the hand-holding for after dessert (if all goes well, of course).

9. Mind the Bread Basket

It’s not the Olympic breadbasket relay. If you want some bread, ask for it to be passed. Don’t lunge across the table or hoard all the rolls like it’s a carb apocalypse. Sharing is caring, and a good sign of someone who doesn’t have food issues.

10. Thank Your Date

At the end of the date, be gracious. Whether it’s a simple “thanks for dinner” or offering to split the bill, showing gratitude is classy. Even if you didn’t feel a spark, it’s polite to thank them for their time. Who knows? They might just become your best friend—or at least your go-to person for bad date stories.

With these tips, you’re all set to rock that dinner date. Remember, dating is about having fun and making a connection. So relax, be yourself, and try not to spill wine on their outfit. Unless it’s red wine on a red shirt, then, you know, you could get away with it.

Moonbird x

First Date Red Flags: Spotting the Signs of a Romantic Dumpster Fire

by Jene | Apr 29, 2024 | For the Boys | 0 comments

Ah, the beautiful, euphoric feelings that strings with the idea of the perfect first date – the wonderful prospect of what could be the lifelong romance you’ve been waiting for or a utter disaster. If you’re like me, you’re just trying to get through dinner without spilling spaghetti sauce on your pretty white dress or accidentally making a pun joke (or five). But what about those subtle signs that scream, “Run (elegantly) while you still can!”? Here are some red flags to watch for on that crucial first date. Consider it your crash course in “How to Avoid a Relationship Dumpster Fire.”

The “Me, myself and I” Guy

Everyone’s got a perception of self and having a good self esteem is obviously a wonderful trait you want your well rounded future partner to have. There is nothing wrong with healthy confidence, but if your date spends more than 10 minutes explaining the intricate details of their soul, while you’re just trying to figure out the calorie count in your order, consider it a red flag. Like I said, confidence is good but you don’t want to date someone with a god-complex. Pull out the old “I think my cat is on fire” excuse and call it a day. Can I get a amen?

The “I’m looking for a rebound” Guy

Man I wish I didn’t have to learn this the hard way. Unfortunately, I did see every single red flag but this man was so damn delicious in the way he existed and it wasn’t long before I convinced myself that he will get over the loss of his previous relationship and we will live happily ever after. To my detriment, this clown sulked through almost our entire relationship with my undying love by his side. It’s one thing to bring up past relationships, but if your date is on a first-name basis with the barista serving your coffee because they spent months crying over their ex’s favorite caramel macchiato, it’s not a great sign. Run girl, run.

The “Professional Dater”

You know the type – they’re super charming and so well versed, every word dripping with sweet seductive honey, and you can’t shake the feeling that they’ve delivered that same line at least 50 times before. This guy is probably playing the hook up game OR he has a degree in flirting and the last time I checked neither of those are great attributes. Sexual banter can be fun if that’s what you’re into but I suggest if you notice that he is there to play the hook-up game, put your cards down and leave the table gracefully. You want to dine with a Gentleman, not a Casanova.

The “I’ll Have the Most Expensive Thing on the Menu” Individual

A first date is a time for impressions, not impressively high credit card bills. If your date orders the lobster, the filet mignon, the crème Brule and the most expensive bottle of wine, there’s a good chance they’re either incredibly fancy or they haven’t eaten in a decade. Either way, it’s probably not a great look. You’re interested in someone showcasing their fat heart, not their fat wallet.

The “I Don’t Have a Sense of Humor” Person

If you crack a joke and your date responds with a blank stare – or worse, a condescending lecture on why your puns are overrated – you might want to start re-evaluating your life choices girl. Laughter is the best medicine, and if they’re not buying what you’re selling, there’s a pharmacy full of other fish in the sea. Bye boy, bye.

The “Conspiracy Theorist”

I guess a little bit of skepticism can be healthy, but when your date starts explaining how the moon landing was staged by the illuminati , it’s time to grab your tinfoil hat and make a run for it. Bonus points if they try to convince you that you’re being watched by “the government” as you leave. PS: I just spilled my ginger tea laughing as I typed this. Why do guys find it necessary to convince everybody of their believes? I don’t even know if this classifies as a red flag BUT I can’t be spending my days with someone that tapes their phones camera. Who’s going to take the cute romantic selfies? Not me. Next.

The “Let’s Get Married Tomorrow” Romantic

While it’s lovely to find someone who’s obsessed with you, proposing marriage over appetizers is a bit much. I mean this guy doesn’t even know you have ADHD yet. If your date starts planning your future together before you’ve even finished your appetizer, it’s a solid red flag. You don’t need a proposal, just a second date, if he tells you you’re pretty. Maybe. Love bombing isn’t cute if you barely know the guy.

The “Oops got to go” girl

So, what do you do if you encounter a drop dead gorgeous human with these red flags? Simple: Marry him. Kidding! Finish the meal, thank him for his time, and walk away. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and you don’t have to settle for the ones with suspicious dorsal fins, so just keep swimming.

Remember, dating is supposed to be fun. If it’s not, there’s always Netflix and pizza at home. Happy dating love-bugs.

Moonbird x

Treat him like a King: 5 DIY date night ideas

by Jene | Mar 29, 2024 | For the Boys | 0 comments

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, carving out quality time with your significant other can sometimes feel like a challenge. Amidst deadlines, chores, and obligations, nurturing your relationship often takes a backseat. But fear not, for amidst the mundane routines lies an opportunity to reconnect and rekindle the spark. Enter: date nights.

Date nights aren’t just reserved for anniversaries or special occasions; they’re essential for maintaining the bond and intimacy in any relationship. However, the traditional dinner-and-a-movie routine can become monotonous over time. That’s where we come in. In this blog post, we’re here to infuse some excitement into your evenings with ten unique date night ideas that promise to create unforgettable memories.

Whether you’re in the early stages of dating, celebrating years of togetherness, or reigniting the flame after a busy period, these suggestions cater to all tastes and preferences. From adrenaline-pumping adventures to cozy nights in, there’s something here for every couple looking to inject a dose of fun and romance into their relationship.

So, without further ado, let’s explore these delightful date night ideas and embark on a journey to create magical moments together.

Bringing nostalgia to the table

There’s a unique charm in revisiting the flavors and memories of our childhood. Whether it’s the aroma of a familiar dish or the nostalgia-inducing scenes of a beloved movie, these experiences have the power to transport us back to simpler times. So why not share these cherished moments with your significant other by hosting a delightful date night at home?

Picture this: a cozy evening illuminated by soft candlelight, the comforting scent of your favorite childhood meal wafting through the air, and the anticipation of watching a classic movie that holds a special place in your heart. This isn’t just any ordinary date night; it’s a journey back in time, a celebration of the past, and a rekindling of the bond that brought you together.

Step into the kitchen and dust off that old recipe book or call up your parents for their secret ingredient tips. Whether it’s grandma’s lasagna, mom’s meatloaf, or dad’s famous spaghetti and meatballs, choose a dish that holds sentimental value for both of you. The act of cooking together can be an intimate experience, filled with laughter, shared memories, and perhaps a few kitchen mishaps along the way.

As the aroma fills the air and the table is set, it’s time to dim the lights and cue up the movie that defined your childhood. Whether it’s a timeless Disney classic, a nostalgic coming-of-age story, or a feel-good comedy that never fails to make you smile, choose a film that resonates with both of you. Snuggle up on the couch, share a bowl of popcorn, and let the movie whisk you away on a journey down memory lane.

But the magic of this date night isn’t just in the food and the movie; it’s in the shared experience of reliving cherished moments from the past and creating new memories together. It’s about appreciating the simple joys of togetherness and finding solace in each other’s company, even in the comfort of your own home.

So, the next time you’re planning a date night, consider bringing a touch of nostalgia to the table. Whip up his favorite childhood meal, dim the lights, and press play on that beloved movie. You’ll be amazed at how something as simple as food and film can reignite the spark and strengthen the bond between you and your partner. After all, there’s nothing quite like the magic of nostalgia to make an evening truly unforgettable.

A Picnic Fit for a King

Gentlemen deserve to be treated like royalty every now and then, and what better way to indulge your favorite man than with a thoughtfully planned picnic just for him? Whether you’re celebrating a special occasion or simply want to show your appreciation, hosting a picnic tailored to his tastes is a surefire way to make him feel loved and cherished. Here’s how to create a memorable outdoor experience that will leave him feeling like a king:

Location, Location, Location: Start by choosing a picturesque setting that suits his preferences. Is he a nature enthusiast who enjoys the tranquility of the forest? Or perhaps he prefers the scenic views of a waterfront or the urban charm of a city park. Consider his interests and personality to select a location that will resonate with him.
Craft a Menu Fit for a King: Impress him with a gourmet spread featuring his favorite dishes and indulgent treats. Whether he’s a fan of savory delights like charcuterie boards and grilled meats or has a sweet tooth that craves decadent desserts, tailor the menu to his taste buds. Don’t forget to pack his preferred beverages, whether it’s fine wine, craft beer, or artisanal cocktails.
Set the Scene with Style: Elevate the ambiance with elegant decor and comfortable seating options. Lay out a plush blanket or set up a cozy picnic table adorned with stylish linens and tableware. Add some decorative touches like candles, fresh flowers, or rustic lanterns to create a sophisticated atmosphere that exudes charm and romance.
Plan Engaging Activities: Keep him entertained with activities that reflect his interests and hobbies. Whether it’s a friendly game of chess, a leisurely stroll through nature, or simply lounging in the sun with his favorite book, tailor the experience to his preferences. Consider bringing along some portable speakers to enjoy his favorite music playlist as the backdrop to your picnic.
Capture the Moment: Document the special occasion with photos or a personalized keepsake to commemorate the day. Whether you hire a professional photographer or simply use your smartphone, capture candid moments of laughter, affection, and joy shared between the two of you. These memories will be cherished for years to come.

In conclusion, hosting a picnic tailored to his tastes is a thoughtful gesture that will leave a lasting impression. By paying attention to the details and infusing the experience with his favorite things, you’ll create a memorable outdoor adventure that showcases your love and admiration for the king in your life. So go ahead, spoil him with an unforgettable picnic fit for royalty.

Pamper his sweet soul

When it comes to relaxation and self-care, pamper nights aren’t just reserved for the ladies. Men deserve to unwind and indulge in some well-deserved TLC too! So why not surprise your favorite guy with a pamper night tailored just for him? From soothing massages to grooming treatments, here’s how to create the ultimate evening of relaxation and rejuvenation:

Set the Scene for Serenity: Transform your home into a tranquil oasis by dimming the lights, lighting scented candles, and playing soft music to set the mood. Create a cozy space with plush pillows and blankets where he can unwind and escape from the stresses of the day.
Customize the Experience: Take his preferences into account when planning the pamper night activities. Does he enjoy a refreshing skincare routine, a soothing massage, or perhaps a DIY grooming session? Tailor the experience to his interests to ensure maximum relaxation and enjoyment.
Indulge in Gourmet Treats: Elevate the pamper night experience with indulgent treats and beverages. Prepare his favorite snacks, whether it’s a charcuterie board, gourmet chocolates, or decadent desserts. Pair them with his preferred drinks, whether it’s a glass of fine wine, a craft beer, or a refreshing cocktail.
Offer Relaxing Treatments: Treat him to a variety of pampering treatments designed to help him unwind and rejuvenate. Consider offering a relaxing massage using aromatic oils, a facial treatment to cleanse and hydrate his skin, or a foot soak to soothe tired muscles. You could even set up a DIY grooming station with products for shaving, grooming, and skincare.
Encourage Self-Care Practices: Inspire him to incorporate self-care practices into his daily routine by providing him with tips and resources. Share your favorite skincare products, grooming techniques, or relaxation exercises that he can continue to enjoy beyond the pamper night.
Cherish Quality Time Together: Most importantly, use this opportunity to bond and connect with each other. Engage in meaningful conversations, share laughter and affection, and cherish the moments of relaxation and togetherness. Pamper nights aren’t just about physical rejuvenation; they’re also about nurturing the bond between you and your partner.

In conclusion, hosting a pamper night for him is a thoughtful gesture that shows your love and appreciation. By creating a relaxing and indulgent experience tailored to his preferences, you’ll provide him with the opportunity to unwind, recharge, and feel pampered like royalty. So go ahead, treat him to the ultimate evening of relaxation and rejuvenation—it’s a gift he’ll truly cherish.

Planning the perfect day out hiking with him

There’s something undeniably special about exploring the great outdoors hand in hand with your significant other. If you’re looking for a memorable way to spend quality time together, why not plan a day out hiking? With stunning scenery, fresh air, and the thrill of adventure, hiking offers the perfect opportunity to bond and create lasting memories. Here’s how to plan the ultimate hiking excursion with him:

Choose the Right Trail: Start by selecting a hiking trail that suits both of your fitness levels and preferences. Whether you’re seeking a leisurely stroll through lush forests, a challenging ascent to a scenic overlook, or a rugged trek along rugged terrain, there’s a trail out there for every couple. Consider factors such as distance, elevation gain, and terrain difficulty when making your selection.
Pack Wisely: Be sure to pack all the essentials for a safe and enjoyable hike. This includes plenty of water to stay hydrated, energy-boosting snacks like trail mix and granola bars, sunscreen, insect repellent, a first-aid kit, and a map or GPS device for navigation. Dress in layers and wear sturdy hiking shoes to ensure comfort and protection on the trail.
Capture the Moment: Don’t forget to bring along a camera or smartphone to capture the breathtaking scenery and special moments shared along the way. Whether it’s a stunning panoramic view, a wildlife sighting, or a candid snapshot of the two of you, these photos will serve as cherished mementos of your hiking adventure together.
Embrace the Experience: Take the time to immerse yourselves in the beauty of nature and embrace the experience fully. Pause to admire the sights and sounds around you, breathe in the fresh mountain air, and appreciate the opportunity to explore the great outdoors together. Use this time to connect with each other, share stories, and enjoy each other’s company without the distractions of everyday life.
Practice Leave No Trace: Show respect for the environment and fellow hikers by practicing Leave No Trace principles. Pack out all trash, stay on designated trails, avoid disturbing wildlife, and be mindful of your impact on the natural surroundings. Leave the trail as beautiful as you found it so that future hikers can enjoy it too.
Celebrate Your Achievement: Once you’ve reached your destination or completed your hike, take a moment to celebrate your achievement together. Whether it’s with a high-five, a shared snack, or a quiet moment of reflection, acknowledge the effort and teamwork that went into making your hiking day a success.

In conclusion, planning a day out hiking with him is a wonderful way to bond, enjoy nature, and create unforgettable memories together. By choosing the right trail, packing wisely, embracing the experience, and practicing Leave No Trace, you’ll ensure a safe and enjoyable adventure that strengthens your relationship and leaves you both feeling invigorated and inspired. So lace up your hiking boots, hit the trails, and embark on an unforgettable outdoor journey with the one you love.

Figure out his love language by cracking the code

In the intricate tapestry of love, understanding and speaking our partner’s unique “love language” can profoundly deepen our connection and strengthen the bond we share. But what exactly are these love languages, and how can we incorporate them into a special date night to uncover the depths of his heart? Let’s embark on this journey together.

Words of Affirmation: If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, consider planning a date night filled with heartfelt compliments, love notes, and meaningful conversations. Write him a letter expressing your admiration and appreciation for him, or create a personalized playlist filled with songs that remind you of your special moments together.
Acts of Service: For those whose love language is acts of service, a thoughtful date night centered around helping and supporting each other can speak volumes. Prepare his favorite meal from scratch, offer to tackle a chore or task he’s been dreading, or surprise him by taking care of something on his to-do list. The gesture of thoughtfulness and effort will not go unnoticed.
Receiving Gifts: If your partner’s love language is receiving gifts, use this date night as an opportunity to shower him with thoughtful and meaningful presents. It doesn’t have to be extravagant; even a small token of your affection—a book he’s been wanting to read, a special memento from a shared experience, or a homemade gift—can convey your love and appreciation in a profound way.
Quality Time: For those who prioritize quality time, plan a date night focused on uninterrupted togetherness and meaningful connection. Turn off your phones, disconnect from distractions, and spend the evening engaging in activities that you both enjoy. Whether it’s cooking a meal together, stargazing under the night sky, or simply cuddling on the couch, the key is to be fully present and attentive to each other.
Physical Touch: If physical touch is your partner’s primary love language, plan a date night filled with affectionate gestures, cuddles, and intimacy. Take turns giving each other massages, dance together to your favorite songs, or simply hold hands as you take a romantic evening stroll. The power of touch can communicate love and affection in ways that words cannot.

By incorporating elements of each love language into your date night, you’ll not only deepen your understanding of your partner’s needs and desires but also strengthen the connection you share. Remember, the key is to be intentional, attentive, and sincere in your efforts to express love in a way that resonates with his heart. So go ahead, plan that special date night, and embark on a journey of discovery and connection that will leave you both feeling cherished and loved.

Now live happily ever after…

Whether you’re embarking on a culinary adventure with a nostalgic childhood meal, indulging in a cozy picnic in the great outdoors, pampering each other with a luxurious spa night at home, or hitting the trails for an exhilarating hike, the essence of a memorable date night lies in the effort and intention behind it. Each of these date night ideas offers a unique opportunity to bond, connect, and create lasting memories with your significant other.

From the thrill of exploring new flavors and experiences together to the comfort of reliving cherished memories and basking in each other’s presence, the possibilities for romance and adventure are endless. By infusing creativity, thoughtfulness, and personal touches into your date nights, you can deepen your connection, reignite the spark, and strengthen the foundation of your relationship.

Whether you’re celebrating a special occasion, nurturing your bond amidst the busyness of life, or simply seeking to carve out quality time together, the key is to prioritize each other’s happiness and well-being. So, whether you’re planning a romantic dinner at home, a spontaneous picnic under the stars, or a thrilling outdoor adventure, remember that the most important ingredient is the love and connection you share.

So go ahead, get creative, and embark on a journey of love, laughter, and unforgettable moments with your partner. After all, the best date nights are the ones that leave you both feeling cherished, appreciated, and deeply connected.

All my love, always.

Moonbird x

For the boys: This is how you’ll know she’s a keeper

by tanya_admin | Jul 26, 2020 | For the Boys | 0 comments

Hey Tiger!

I asked a few male creatures what they would like to read about and this topic jumped up first. It’s a goodie, I must say! Its enlightening to know there’s still a few genuine fella’s out there who actually pick their partners based on more than just the three common B’s.

I would say find a girl with a horrible tattoo and marry her. She knows how to make bad decisions and stick with them.

Just kidding. Obviously there is no such thing as the ideal well rounded partner, we’re all flawed humans striving to perfect our existence in every and any way we can. But if you’re lucky enough to find someone who’s willing to better herself for the greater good, hang in there. Its not easy to change one’s true, sinful nature and a willing heart should be celebrated for its bravery.

If she takes good care of herself physically she will take good care of you.

Self respect is a attribute you definitely want your girl to have. I’m not saying don’t settle for anything less than one of Charlie’s Angel’s, remember there is a huge difference between attention seeking Sally and the girl next door. Sally will spend all her time and energy on luring men in with her appearance – but when she opens her mouth she’s got nothing but a rehearsed four word vocabulary. The girl next door takes her appearance seriously, but she’s more focused on building up her character, unlike Sally – who’s only ambition in life is to be the next Kim Kardashian.

If she is lose with her body she’s going to be lose with her heart.

Okay boys, lets be honest real quick. Genetically you aren’t wired to care about this fact too much, but if you’re on the look out for someone to raise your children with then you gotta listen up. Find someone who treasures both her heart and her body. Easy access in means easy access out, you want a rich and meaningful relationship – not just some temporary sex retreat where two of a woman’s most valuable possessions is shared by many others. There is absolutely nothing sacred about that. Would you spend loads of money buying a car that’s been used and abused by others because the owner didn’t mind letting it go for a joy ride every now and again for some self gratification? Yeah. Didn’t think so.

I know you want to feel like her king, but go for the woman who’s world doesn’t revolve around you.

Take caution when a girl cant even buy a bread without your input or struggles to breath if you’re not in a two meter vicinity. We weren’t created to become one in every way humanly possible. Unhealthy codependency is a real thing, find yourself a lady who is emotionally independent and mature enough to know that you are in her life to make it better, not to become it. There should be a healthy balance, where you feel prioritized but also have your own space to breath in.

If she challenges you – she’s a keeper, for sure!

If you’re into personal growth, get yourself a lady that wants to see you grow and reach your full potential in all the important areas of your life. You want someone who’s supportive of the best version of you, not someone who’s intimidated by it. If she challenges your way of thinking, it means she challenges her own and there will never be a dull moment. Settle for the one with a curious and wandering mind, she’s forever growing and she’ll make sure that you keep up with your own journey.

Make sure her moral compass is aligned with your expectations.

Don’t be heart broken when you face betrayal in some way, if you didn’t put in the effort to get to know her true nature. There is black, white and grey people in life. The grey one’s are always a huge risk, because they will find reasons to push the boundaries and then justify their selfish behavior. They will compromise on important values if it gives them some temporary sense of self satisfaction. They cant think beyond it, they are simply incapable and its not your job to raise anyone with good standards, you’re a partner not a parent. This is also known as immaturity and insecurity. Be careful boys! Find yourself a loyal one.

If she speaks your love language don’t let her get away.

If she goes out of her way to understand and speak your love language you better count yourself lucky. We live in superficial times where people date each other for what they can gain out of the relationship, instead of putting in selfless efforts to make the other person feel loved and adored. If she loves you more than she loves herself, marry her dude – or someone else will.

Strong and independent, but vulnerable when it matters.

I’m still struggling to find my balance between being strong and soft all at once but I do try! No man likes it when a woman tries to take his place, and rightfully so we should know where to draw the line and let the man take the lead. Its okay to not be okay all the time, I would say settle for someone who’s mature enough to know when she needs to put on her big girl pants and when its okay to admit she needs your shoulder. As long as no one gets drained in the process you’re both good to go.

Love versus money.

This can be a real tough one. Remember attention seeking Sally? I am willing to bet on her willingness to chase money instead of love. Be sure to trust your heart with the one that stays through the toughest of times, the girl that loves you for all you are, not all you have. If the money falls away, only love remains – if its not shallow.